Thriving in Your 30s: A Practical Guide

Incorporate weightlifting into your routine to build strength and confidence. Variable reward: Chance to increase weight lifted each session.

“Every person in their 20s and 30s should lift heavy weights”

Improve cardiovascular health and mental stamina by running regularly. Pre-commitment: Commit to a race to enhance motivation.

“Every person in their 20s and 30s should... run long distances”

Regularly challenge your physical and mental limits to build resilience. Experiencing something hard and realizing you can take so much more increases confidence. Time-bound challenge: push limits for 12 weeks and document progress.

“Just when you think you can't take any more, that means you're about a third of the way to your limits”

Expand your professional network by attending industry events and conferences. Loss aversion: Risk losing points if you miss scheduled events.

“You'd rather be good in a big city than great in a small City”

Develop your social skills by initiating conversations with strangers in everyday situations. Develop the skills to begin opening and establishing relationships. Community building: Share conversation tips with other program users.

“Start whenever you're waiting in line at Starbucks talk to the person in front of you talk to the person behind you”

Step outside your comfort zone by taking calculated risks, like sending blind emails or reaching out to people you admire. Choice architecture: Frame taking risks as a gain instead of a loss.

“Nothing wonderful is going to happen to you unless you take an uncomfortable risk”

Actively seek out opportunities to meet potential partners by attending social events, using dating apps, or striking up conversations with strangers. Social comparison: Compare progress meeting new people with others on the program.

“Find create as many opportunities to find a mate now what do I mean by that get out as often as possible accept invitations force yourself to go out force yourself to meet strangers”

Don't be afraid to express your interest in potential partners or friends, even at work, as long as you do so respectfully and without abusing power.

“A third of relationships begin at work I'm not suggesting anyone should ever abuse their power I'm I'm not suggesting you shouldn't be very careful that you're ever leveraging power making anyone uncomfortable but for God's sakes go up and talk to strangers there's nothing wrong with that”

Recognize that the most important decision you'll make is choosing a life partner, and that a strong partnership can make even difficult circumstances easier.

“The most important decision you'll make in your 20s and 30s is...who you decide to partner with specifically who you decide to ultimately have kids with”