Building Resilience: Your Internal Shock Absorbers
A program designed to help you develop resilience, the ability to bounce back from life's inevitable disappointments, failures, and pains. Based on the teachings of Dr. Stephen Marmer.
Program Modules
Understanding Resilience
Introduction to the concept of resilience and its importance in navigating life's challenges. We'll explore how resilience acts as an internal shock absorber to help us cope with life's difficulties.
Reflect on Life's Difficulties
DailyDaily reflection on the inherent difficulties, complexities, and unpredictability of life, acknowledging this reality as a starting point for building resilience. This routine reinforces the program's foundational message.
“In case you hadn’t noticed, life is difficult, complex and unpredictable.”
Gaining Perspective
Activities focused on stepping back and assessing situations objectively to gain perspective. This module will help you avoid amplifying minor issues into major problems.
Assess the Situation Objectively
DailyPractice assessing situations objectively by asking key questions. This routine is essential for developing a resilient mindset.
“Step back and assess your situation with as much objectivity as you can.”
Counting Your Blessings
Compare the undeserved bad things with the unearned good things in your life. This module encourages gratitude and shifts your focus to the positive aspects of your life.
List Undeserved Bad & Unearned Good
WeeklyCreate a list of undeserved bad things and unearned good things, focusing on gratitude. This routine helps you recognize the abundance of good in your life.
“When I ask my patients to do this, they invariably conclude that the unearned good in their life far outweighs the undeserved bad.”
Toughen Up
Challenge yourself to build mental toughness. This module emphasizes the importance of pushing your limits to develop resilience.
Push Your Limits
WeeklyIdentify an area where you can push yourself beyond your comfort zone. Stepping outside your comfort zone builds resilience.
“To toughen up, you need to push yourself.”
Architect of Your Fate
Focus on controlling your reactions to uncontrollable circumstances. This module empowers you to take charge of your responses and build resilience.
Control Your Reactions
DailyPractice controlling your reaction to a challenging or uncontrollable circumstance. Control your reactions, control your fate.
“Although there are many times in life when we can’t control circumstances, there are very few times when we can’t control how we react to them.”
Honest Inventory
Take an honest inventory of your life to discover how you have contributed to your own misery. This module promotes self-awareness and accountability.
Identify Self-Created Problems
WeeklyReflect on instances where your own behavior contributed to difficulties or failures. Understanding this pattern is the first step to changing it.
“Make a real effort to discover how you have contributed to your own misery.”
What You'll Accomplish
- Understand the definition and importance of resilience.
- Develop skills to gain perspective and assess situations objectively.
- Cultivate gratitude by comparing good and bad experiences.
- Build mental toughness by pushing personal limits.
- Take control of reactions to uncontrollable circumstances.
- Identify personal behaviors that contribute to difficulties.
- Foster the capacity for change.
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