A Manifesto for Managing Sh*t After Sh*t Happens
A program based on the shared experiences of Mike Solomon and Hillary, offering insights and practical steps for building resilience in the face of adversity. It emphasizes social support, mentalizing, attention training, confronting mortality, embracing imperfection, and the power of love and connection.
Program Modules
The Power of Social Connection 🫂
Understanding and leveraging the importance of social support in building resilience, including group dynamics and social influence principles.
Nurturing Reciprocal Relationships 🤝
WeeklyPractice giving and receiving support within your social circle to strengthen social bonds.
“no man is an island”
Thinking About Thinking 🤔
Developing the capacity to understand the mental states of ourselves and others. Recognizing triggers.
Reflective Journaling ✍️
DailyEngage in daily journaling to explore your thoughts, feelings, and intentions, and recognize patterns.
“traumas can create Minds that dare not reflect Minds that don't know how to reflect”
Training Your Attention Muscle 💪
Developing the ability to focus attention and control thoughts through practice. Reducing rumination.
Mindfulness Meditation 🧘
DailyPractice mindfulness meditation to train your attention and focus on the present moment. Interrupting negative thought loops.
“if I want to get physically strong I go to the gym not just once but repeatedly again and again”
Staring at the Sun ☀️
Acknowledging and confronting the reality of our mortality to live more fully. Identifying values.
Contemplate Mortality 💀
MonthlyTake time to reflect on your own mortality and what it means to you. Identify values.
“if we are to live whole full lives we need to be brave and stare at the Sun”
The Weeble Philosophy 🤸
Learning to accept wobbling as an essential part of resilience and practicing self-compassion. Cultivating a growth mindset.
Practice Self-Compassion 🥰
DailyPractice self-compassion in times of difficulty. Reframing failure.
“wobbling is not just something to be accepted and tolerated but is actually essential”
Name It to Tame It 🗣️
Reducing the power of difficult and frightening things by naming them. Introduction to exposure therapy concepts.
Acknowledge Fears 👻
MonthlyIdentify and name your fears to reduce their power over you. Stepping stone to facing anxieties.
“the more we can name things articulate things acknowledge them be with them the more we can reduce this dread”
Love is Proven to Soothe and Calm ❤️
Understanding the power of love, affection, and connection in building resilience. Strengthening neural pathways.
Connect With Loved Ones 🥰
DailyMake an effort to connect with loved ones and express your affection. Increasing oxytocin.
“good attachments in older life love attention even talking therapy can actually influence the neural Pathways of of our brains”
Good Enough is Perfect Enough ✅
Accepting that being good enough is more important than being perfect. Reducing self-criticism.
Practice Self-Acceptance 🧘♀️
DailyAcknowledge your imperfections and practice accepting yourself. Reframing expectations.
“we happen to think that rather than being perfect it may be more important to be honest and open and authentic”
What You'll Accomplish
- Understand the importance of social support in resilience.
- Develop the capacity for mentalizing and reflecting on one's own mental state.
- Train attention and control thoughts through mindfulness.
- Confront mortality to appreciate the present moment.
- Embrace wobbling and practice self-compassion.
- Name fears to reduce their power.
- Recognize the power of love and connection.
- Strive for 'good enough' rather than perfection.
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